Loneliness is not a particularly popular subject. It scares people - and rightfully so. The CDC has linked social isolation (what might be called the “precursor” or environment in which loneliness blooms) to health conditions. It’s still culturally taboo to admit to feeling lonely.
If you are in a marginalized body, loneliness may feel familiar. That’s why I wanted to talk about it today.
We often experience loneliness as a product of personal failure - not the outcome of cultural design, trauma or oppression (all three of these are much bigger culprits, I’d argue). It’s a common byproduct of a culture saturated in misogyny, white supremacy and - yes - body shame and fatphobia. Loneliness is a common reason people stay in cycles of restriction or disordered eating patterns. It’s a source of anxiety and can make us act in ways that don’t align with our dignity or our values.